The Father

Dealing With Fatherhood

Even though you have watched your partner grow larger and have been anticipating becoming a father for a very long time, it can be very difficult once the newborn is at home. You may not be quite ready for all the changes that are about to take place.

Many new fathers are almost afraid of the new baby. They are afraid because it is small and they are afraid the baby will break. They handle and carry the baby with extra care. Many are so afraid that they do not wish to hold the newborn, change a diaper or even give them a bottle. This can be very trying on the new mom, that is becoming more and more exhausted every day since she is the sole caretaker for a demanding little baby.

It is very important that fathers-to-be take a childbirth class that also has information on the newborn. This can relieve some of the most pressing worries on a new fathers mind. He can learn how to change a diaper, learn about fevers, how to hold the baby and so much more. Then he will be prepared to help with the little one and even enjoy holding his new son or daughter.

Other fathers are afraid to leave the house or leave their new baby with anyone including grandma. This can be from wanting to be there every second and protecting their baby. Some fathers have a very hard time heading out the door to work, not knowing where their loyalty should be at work or at home. If the father can ask for a paternity leave for the first two weeks after the baby is born, this is a great way for the new dad to learn and to bond with the baby before heading back to work. However, if not do not worry, you will have plenty of time to bond with the baby when you are home.

Another problem that most men have when it comes to fatherhood is that now there time is not spent with their partner. All of their time is spent with the baby. This can become a major problem with couples. All couples need some quiet time together. If you can only find a couple of hours over the weekend while the baby is asleep to enjoy each other's company, take it. In the first few months, a couple of hours of cuddle time is better than none at all.