The Father

Fathers Emotions

Just because the father-to-be is not the one carrying the baby for 40 weeks does not mean that he is not going through quite a bit of emotional turmoil himself. Fathers-to-be have plenty on their mind and are normally afraid to voice any of their thoughts because they do not wish to look weak and frail when it comes to becoming a father.

Just like all women and each pregnancy is different, so are the emotions of the father-to-be. There are, though, a few common questions and concerns that are mentioned most of the time by first time fathers.

The two major concerns include:

•  Being a good father

•  Finances

These are good questions and may through the mind of every man, however, maybe they are prepared and are worried at all.

Wondering if you will be a good father is one of the largest concerns on a father-to-be's mind, however, the mother-to-be is asking herself the same question. You may have seen good things in your father that you would like for your child, or you may also see behavior that you wish to avoid, this is very normal. This is your baby and you can provide the role of father however you wish, you could take a very active role by changing diapers, getting up a night, or waiting until the baby is older to join in this part of their life. Many fathers are worried about breaking new babies and the mom must be there to help her partner bond with the new baby and understand his fears with fatherhood.

Finances are a major issue whether you are planning to have a baby or not. Learning how to budget and make ends meet has always been a burden for the father. Today, many women are now working and this can still put a large burden on the father if they need the finances the mother brings in to make ends meet. Now, she must quit work to have the new baby and he must find a way to increase their income not only to support himself and his partner but also the new baby.

No matter what your concerns are the best person to talk with is your partner. You may learn that you both have the same exact concerns. However, remember, her emotions are more messed up than yours because of hormonal changes that are occurring. So pick your time wisely to let her know of your concerns.