The Father

Men and the Birth

Men may not believe that there is much for them to do doing the birthing process, however, there is plenty for them to do and whether they know it or not it is really appreciated.

You should begin by helping your partner decide on which birthing plan is best for her, yourself and of course the new baby.

• Know what to expect in the labor room and delivery room.
• Take a childbirth class with your partner.
• Watch a video of a baby being born.

It can be difficult for many men to watch their wives in pain, but remember you can help them control the pain. Give your wife a foot massage, a back massage, wipe her forehead with a cool cloth are just a few of the ways you can help.

If you have any concerns about your wives health or the health of baby, do not talk to your wife. She is under enough stress and worries herself. Talk with the doctor or with a close friend or family member, but never let her know your worries. Remember, you are her support.

Go to the doctor's visit, learn all you can about how the baby is growing, listen to the heartbeat, etc… Let her know you are an interested partner and have the desire to be there every step of the way.

If you have been there through the entire pregnancy, by exercising, listening, going to childbirth classes and eating properly you will probably be ready for the labor and delivery room.

Be prepared for the cost. Create a financial plan early so you will not have the worries with you in the delivery room.

After the baby is born, make the telephones, give your wife a massage, find her a snack, and above all else tell her how much you love her and then let her rest.

One other thing to remember, if she yells, curses, and tells you she hates you, these are words said through fear and pain. These words should be ignored!

The first hour or so after your baby is born, allow your wife to rest. Only allow visitors when your wife is ready. She may not want anyone to see her right after the baby is born. Give her some time to rest; be fresh and pretty when anyone walks in her room. This includes your mother. Ask her is she is ready for visitors and if so and so can come in.